Posted on Sunday, 13th January 2008 by Bcarter
It has been a long time since my last post, but I think I may have taken too much onto my plate over the holidays. Now that things have slowed down, I should be able to get back into a routine for myself again.
In several articles and in “Behind the 8 Ball” I have read many times that a person dealing with a problem gambler should not psychoanalyze their loved one with a gambling problem. I think the reasoning behind this is to keep yourself from going crazy due to the fact that you cannot figure out the triggers that make your loved one go to the casino. This has definitely been the situation behind my case. Q stopped recycling for a while and during that time proceeded to go to the casino so I thought that maybe the recycling was taking place of the gambling rush. Unfortunately, he just recently started recycling again, but then took the money he made to the casino. On the other hand, we have had a home improvement project recently rear its ugly head for this coming summer so maybe the costs behind that were the trigger?
See what I mean? Trying to figure out all of his triggers could land myself in the loony bin if I’m not careful. However, the accountant in me keeps saying this general ledger account is out of balance and I need to figure out the problem before I can sleep at night. I’m a problem solver by nature and I just cannot sit idly by and watch Q stay out of balance.
So, what’s my whole point here? Even though many of the books I read are correct and have been extremely helpful in getting myself back on track, I cannot listen to all of the advice that has been given by them. Not every person is a textbook case and we often need to do what we feel is best for ourselves to stay sane. What I have done is stop psychoanalyzing Q to his face in our conversations regarding the casino and I think this has helped.
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