Posted on Tuesday, 12th February 2008 by 
Bcarter
If you have read some of the previous posts in my blog you may wonder why the heck I’m still with my husband. Over the next month, I’ll be exploring those reasons myself.
Reason number 1 why I stay with Q - He really is a good guy. He’s a little insecure, but a good guy. When we first started dating he was very unsure about the fact that I made more money than he did and I think this still bothers him, but he’s not as verbal about it. As much as I try to get it through his thick skull that I have a college degree and he doesn’t, many times he still just doesn’t get it. I think his gambling problem grew out of this insecurity, instead of trying to better himself he’d try to go and win the big jackpot at the casino instead. Once he looked at what was left of his paycheck, he’d start to chase the losses and try to win it back; before he knew it, his whole paycheck was gone. There were times when instead of taking what he had to try and buy me something nice, he’d take the money to the casino to try and make more and buy something even better. His heart was in the right place, but they way he went about making the extra money just doesn’t work.
Yes, the gambling still started out as greed, but I really think his intentions when this all started were just to help us out and better our life. We are still fighting the battle of getting it through his think skull that this method of making money just doesn’t work.
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Posted in My Thoughts & Feelings about Gambling | Comments (6)
February 12th, 2008 at 8:00 am
I found your site on google blog search and read a few of your other posts. Keep up the good work. Just added your RSS feed to my feed reader. Look forward to reading more from you.
Karen Halls
February 22nd, 2008 at 6:26 am
Karen,
Thank you for your support. I do appreciate it.
Brenda
March 2nd, 2008 at 11:04 am
isn’t what they all say, “I am trying to earn back the money?” you should report your husband to a physcologist before it’s too late
March 2nd, 2008 at 12:48 pm
My husband has seen a psychologist already and it has helped curb his urges to gamble. I’m not sure what “reporting” would do though? Unless he has put himself or someone else in danger, psychological help cannot be mandatory.
As in any addiction situation, the person addicted has to really want to stop deep down in their heart. I do believe Q is on the right track or we still wouldn’t be living under the same roof.
May 31st, 2008 at 7:12 am
I admire u for being so broad for your husband. My story is somewhat similar with you in a sense that we both had a gambling husband. But my case is somewhat different in a sense that for almost three years i didnt had an idea that he was gambling. Until out married life just got worsed that i only knew from his friend that he was hooked to gambling. Before I decided to leave him, i was suspecting that he was cheating. He always comes very late at night and sometimes doesnt come home, like for 1 day or 2. He was able to make me believe that its all because his work demands. Our finances got worse because he said its because of our failing business. We always had a fight but after that…due to so much trust in him I would end up submitting to him…believing every words he say. When i think about it now, I knew I was just actually in a state of denial at that time.
When I learned the truth about everything…his gambling activies…until such time that I even got to know about his having an affair with someone…I decided to leave him with my son. Now I felt im totally saved and free.
October 31st, 2008 at 7:56 pm
I came across your site while I did a search on Google for im not making any money and your article on Why I Stay With My Gambling Husband | Down On Our Luck was informative.